The Femmelesia: Visions, Values, and Distinctives
The vision of The Femmelesia is to forge a new spiritual and religious path uniquely for queer femmes. The mission of The Femmelesia is to construct a new pathway and communities rooted in the lived incarnational stories of queer and/or nonbinary femmes, whose experiences may not necessarily align with the mainstream "Goddess spirituality" subculture. With the consumeric tendencies of the New Age movement and their influences on so-called eclectic "divine feminine spirituality" movement, the unfortunate side-effect has been the leveraging of what I call the "white lady woo-woo sisterhood" lifestyle, which too often include spiritual bypassing, gaslighting, cultural appropriations, anti-intellectualism, therapy culture, and unhealthy appeal to emotions.
I acknowledge that this phenomenon has long alienated thinkers, neurodiverse folks, those who are socio-economicially marginalized, people of color, and queer folks alike.
As such, I have declared myself as a "woo fighter," to bring reason, sanity, and justice back to religious feminism.
In particular, I repudiate and reject:
- Unhealthy emotionalism and privileging of emotions over reason.
- Neuronormativity and neurosexism, for example, a harmful assumption that women are somehow supposed to be more emotional and spiritual.
- Abuse of astrology or other woo-woo to excuse oppressive and unjust behaviors.
- Cultural appropriations
- Uncritical "eclecticism" that is not rooted in sound scholarship and a respectful understanding of history, anthropology, and cultural contexts.
- Uncritical sexism and gender stereotyping that privileges a heteronormative and ableist narrative of "the women" centered around heterosexuality, monogamy, rigid binary gender norms, and reproduction (examples include Robert Grave's "maiden-mother-crone" archetype).
- Spiritual bypassing and weaponizing of woo-woo in order to avoid dealing with systemic evils in this world (for example, telling survivors of abuse that they are creating their own realities through a "victim mentality").
- Consumerization of "spirituality" into a "spiritual entrepreneurship" and resulting leveraging of privilege and female lifestyle empowerment brands (FLEBs).
I propose a new alternative that truly embraces diverse life experiences while maintaining a high level of ethics and intellectual rigor (this, however, does not go without saying that one's level of formal education should never be a factor in valuing a person).
Also, I believe that a genuine faith and spirituality must naturally lead one to an action that comports to what they believe. Social actions are therefore not optional.
In practice, this means you will see not whole a lot of fluffs from me. Ceremonies I conduct are well-researched and yet adapted to particular life stories of the persons concerned. They are usually minimalist and simple in nature, yet enough room for creativity and playfulness. Many familiar elements of Neo-Pagan rituals are often omitted if they are deemed inappropriate based on the above criteria.